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I, am a Wedding Planner.

I, am a Wedding Planner.

Over the past three months, those five little words have brought sadness and empathy from friends, family, and new people I meet. 

The entire process of learning about COVID-19, realizing that Stay-At-Home Orders are happening, and accepting this new and strange reality has really been tough in our house. Walking through postponements, waiting for updates from our government, and watching big dreams fly away, has been difficult, to say the least.  So, as part of my day, I’ve been journaling more often and I have found that it has helped me to walk through my grief. 

Grief is a strange emotion.  One that I often forget, until it hits me like a tidal wave, knocking me off my feet and out to deeper, uncertain waters.When we have a change in life, I think it is really important to walk yourself through your grief.  Whether it’s having to cancel your original wedding – postponement, rescheduling, changing to an elopement style, or hosting a micro-wedding.  Whether it’s having to rethink your plans, because someone else’s health and safety is so much more important. It doesn’t matter what the change is, it’s hard and embracing your feelings around it is important.

The Stages of Grief

  1. Shock – The first stage, where most people spent some time when this pandemic began.  Paralysis of hearing the news, acting out of necessity, not our previously planned course of action.
  2. Denial – The second stage, where we disregard even the most common sense ideas and actions. Attempts to circumvent the impending requirements.
  3. Anger – The third stage, where our denial sends us, because this can’t “happen to me”.  Outbursts of emotion; frustration, rage, contempt, panic, worry, resentment, etc.
  4. Bargaining – The fourth stage, where we see what we can change to make things better, even though the original dream can no longer manifest. Searching for changes we can tolerate.
  5. Depression – The fifth stage, where we sit when we realize that this is the new reality and we have to move through it.  Understanding this unavoidable delay and change.
  6. Testing – The sixth stage, where we search for alternatives that fit who we are and what we want next in life. Hunting for possible clarification and adjustment of our expectations.
  7. Acceptance – The seventh stage, where we finally find our way forward.  Acknowledgement that the changes, adjustments, and new way of life are here for now.

 

Please know that everyone experiences these stages differently.  Not everyone follows them one by one.  Sometimes, we jump between them, completely out of order.  Sometimes, we go through them and get stuck halfway.  Sometimes, we go straight to the end, not really having gone through each one.   Take your time.  Give grace to yourself and others.  Be patient. 

We’re all in this together.

#InThisTogether

 

The 6 First Decisions You Need To Make In Planning Your Wedding:

The 6 First Decisions You Need To Make In Planning Your Wedding:

  1. Budget

The very first thing you need to know is how much money you have available to spend.  Weddings can cost as much or as little as you want. Knowing this number right off the bat can help to determine your next steps.

2. Date / Month of Your Ideal Wedding.

The time of year, day of the week, or month you want to get married in, can set the stage for your perfect day.  If you’ve always dreamed of an early summer wedding, tell everyone you talk to about scheduling in June. More popular seasons, days, and months book fast, which could have an impact on when you need to sign the contract and provide a deposit to secure the date. 

3. Number of Guests (Have a Ballpark Within ~20 Guests)

This number will change.  It does help immensely to have a fairly solid idea of how many you plan to host, because venues are often unable to exceed specific capacities.  Talk to your families and friends about their guest suggestions. Determine if you want everyone they suggest to actually attend.

4. Indoor and Outdoor Needs for your Ceremony, Cocktail Hour, and Photos.

If you want an outdoor ceremony, you will want to find a venue that has the space available.  If you want to take gorgeous pictures with your entire bridal party, it’s easier to keep everyone close and nearby.

5. Theme & Style 

Talk about the theme and style of your wedding.  If you both love ballroom dancing, you’ll want to ensure you have a large dance floor.  If you met in an art class, you might want to host your wedding in a museum. The theme or style of your wedding can reflect your relationship and the new future you are building together.

6. Ideal Timeline

Getting married at Sunset or in the mid afternoon can change how long you would need a venue to be available.  Some venues only offer an open bar for 4 hours. Thinking about how long the day is, when you plan to do a last dance or your grand exit, and who is taking everything home afterwards, can help as you make plans and sign contracts.

Something Old, Something New

We’ve all heard the saying “Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue”, but do you wonder how you can fulfill each of these? I know I did.

 

Something Old – Represents the past and the history of the families coming together.
IDEA: An item from a parent, grandparent, great aunt, or other older relative. 

Something New – Represents the future of the couple and the bright, positive, new hope. 
IDEA: Your dress, shoes, veil, pick something!  This is usually the easiest, since a lot of couples purchase new clothing items for their big day!

Something Borrowed – Good Luck and Good Fortune from friends and family being shared with the newly married couple. 
IDEA: Any item that you give back. I once loaned a bride $5 for the day!

Something Blue – The color blue stands for Love, Purity, and Fidelity.  All things new couples want as part of their lives together.  IDEA: Depending on your color theme, finding a piece of blue can be tough.  I think one of the fun ways is to have blue on your garter or as part of your dress.

It’s a website!

It’s a Website!

  • The website is officially live.
  • There’s even a blog post.
  • I’ve never owned my own business before and I’m really excited.
  • I’m also scared, but I’ve done some of the best things in life scared.

Regarding Events


A Wedding & Event Planning Company

Today, the website is live and this is the very first blog post.  

I’m sitting at my computer with our toddler hanging out next to me, playing with an Amazon box.  There are so many things I want to teach her and show her about life.  I want her to know that anything she wants to do, she can.  I want her to embrace her emotions and do it scared. 

Today, I am doing this, scared.  It’s strange and overwhelming to put together a business plan (on the back of napkin!), to put together a website, and tell people about it.  Doing anything that you haven’t done before is scary.  I’m thankful that I’m in an industry that celebrates continuing education.  I’m thankful that the industry supports new businesses.  

Work hard, play hard, plan great things.